In reality, there is domestic violence/ domestic abuse of some sort going on every minute of every hour, of every day, of every week, of every month. Domestic violence is ongoing.

If you currently in a domestic violence situation please contact Guilford County Family Justice Center at 336 641-7233.  Or the city and county where you currently reside. National Domestic Violence Hotline 1 800 799-7233, 800 787-3224 (TTY).

“The more that we choose not to talk about domestic violence, the more we shy away from the issue, the more we lose.”- Russell Wilson.

On an average 24 people per minute are victims of rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in the U.S. That is more than 12 million women and men over a year! That means domestic violence/ abuse is in your community and may be in your home. Domestic violence/abuse is ongoing: 24/7 and 365 days a year and we are here to help. Renewal Center for Battered Women Ministry, Inc. 336 988-7622.

“Never forget that walking away from something unhealthy is brave even if you stumble a little on your way out the door.” Unknown

A few Myths and Realities of Domestic Violence

Myth:  This kind of abuse is restricted to poorly educated families from lower socio-economic backgrounds.

Reality: Abuse is found in all socio-economic backgrounds. An unusually high incidence is found among police, physicians, and men in the helping professions. Several studies show a high correlation between increased physical abuse and increased form an education among violent men.

Myth:  Intimate partners have always fought. It is natural and therefore cannot be that bad.

Reality: According to statistics the home, not the streets are the “nursery school of violence”. At least 85% of the men in prison grew up in a violent home. To eliminate violence in society, we must first eliminate violence in the home.

Myth:  A little slap never hurt anyone.

Reality:  The distinguishing feature of abuse is that is a pattern of coercive controls that may or may not include physical violence, but is characterized by its severity and intensity. It can last many years, and physical injuries can range from a black eye to broken bones. Over a third of the murders in this country occur when one family member kills another. Another result is a loss of self-esteem and reduced feeling of self-worth and self-confidence.

Myth:  Victims of abuse are masochistic and enjoy it. Otherwise, they would not stay.

Realty:   Victims of abuse may be reluctant to leave for a complex set of reasons including safety, shame, fear, lack of money, or concern for children. When a victim does leave, it does not guarantee that the beatings will stop. A perpetrator of abuse will often go to great lengths to trace their spouse or partner down, in order to continue the abuse. In fact, victims of abuse are more at risk for fatal injury at the hands of their abuser after they leave.

Myth:  Women batter their husbands.

Reality: Yes, women do batter. Figures indicate that there is one abused husband for every ten abused wives. The difference lies in the extent of the violence. Women receive the far greater physical injury than men do.

So, where did all this violence come from? The thumbnail version:

 “And there was war in heaven: Michael and his angels fought against the dragon [Satan]…and [they] prevailed not; neither was their place found any more in heaven…he was cast out into the earth and his angels were cast out with him.” Revelation 12:7-9 KJV Bible.

The nature of violence is well entrenched in all cultures of the world, and it has been since the beginning of time. As you can see from the above scripture, violence actually began in heaven by Lucifer. Therefore, it is not just a social phenomenatal that  presents  itself in certain social contexts, but it pervasive, demonic and spiritual in nature. It is meant to destroy people, marriages, and the family in particular.  Hence, it must be addressed by spiritual means. 

The Renewal Center for Batterer Women is dedicated to serve clients by helping to remove distress of domestic violence through education, counseling, guidance, and assistance in making better life choices through biblical principles, and practical applications.

“When it comes to abuse, you believe there’s no way out. There is always help. There is always a way out.” -Rev. Donna Mulvey